Meditate on positive thoughts

Have you ever wondered why negative events seem to impact us more than positive events?

  • The comment “You’ve gained a lot of weight” will hurt us more than the comment “You look nice” will encourage us.
  • We remember the course we failed in college more than we do the ones we excelled at.
  • The feelings of anger we have toward a driver that cuts in front of us will stick with us longer than the joy we have when viewing beautiful wildflowers on the side of the road.

In their must-read book, The Net and the Butterfly, authors Cabane and Pollack explain why negative things “stick” quicker and last longer than positive events, and what we can do about it.

“Negative things produce more neural activity than equally intense positive things. We are quicker to recognize the negative in our world. The amygdala, the fire alarm of your brain, uses two-thirds of its neurons to look for the negative. These negative things get stored into memory almost immediately. Positive things need to be held in awareness for twelve seconds to transfer to longer-term memory. This is why gratitude, meditation, and loving-kindness are necessary: we need to focus on the good for our brain to be able to truly remember it. As Rick Hanson puts it, your ‘brain is like Velcro for negative experiences but Teflon for positive ones.’”

One good remedy for this biological predisposition toward the negative is to systematically and regularly meditate on positive thoughts (and, according to the authors, do so for at least 12 seconds). I’m going to do that right now by meditating on the following thoughts:

  • Several months ago, I visited my favorite edifice in the world—St. Peter’s Basilica.
  • Last week I spent an entire morning with my favorite little person—my grandson, Benjamin.
  • I have so many good and faithful friends. I’ll think of a few right now: Dean, Chuck, Mike, Wayne, Jonathan.
  • My fig tree is blossoming in the backyard.

The apostle Paul said it this way: “Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.” A simple but highly effective exercise. It was good advice when it was written two thousand years ago, and it will benefit us today.

Meditation on positive thoughts.

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10 thoughts on “Meditate on positive thoughts

  1. Don, thank you for this motivating post. It came at the perfect time! I am grateful for your wisdom, encouragement, and friendship. …Velcro versus Teflon… I will never forget this illustration in my leadership of others.
    1 Thessalonians 5:11 – “Therefore encourage one another and build up one another…”

  2. Great advice and commentary Don! Wish the media would hear this, they stick to the negative – “if it burns, it sells.”
    Need more positive thoughts in our culture!

    • Dan, I can attest to that. The Dow Jones was down 160 points today and I noticed and it hurt. Interesting…