Envy is the most stupid of vices, for there is no single advantage to be gained from it. Balzac
I have many personal defects but there’s one vice I don’t struggle with: I don’t envy anyone.
As a young professional I struggled with envy, but perhaps age and maturity have dimmed that vice. Now, I can honestly say I am free from the debilitating and distracting feelings of envy. When someone wins, profits, or is acknowledged, I am happy for him or her.
Envy is a feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else’s possessions, qualities, or luck. We resent the advantage enjoyed by another person and we often desire to possess the same advantage, coveting what someone else has.
Aristotle defined envy as pain at the sight of another’s good fortune, stirred by “those who have what we ought to have.” Bertrand Russell said that envy was one of the most potent causes of unhappiness. Not only is the envious person rendered unhappy by his or her envy, Russell explained, but that person may also wish to inflict misfortune on others, because of their advantage.
Most situations in life are not zero-sum scenarios (in order for someone to win, someone else must lose). To the contrary, there’s usually ample room for everyone to do well. So why be envious of others? And even in zero-sum situations (for instance, only one team can win the Super Bowl each year), why not graciously rejoice with those who come out on top? Is there any redemptive value in envy? I don’t think so. Someone else’s victory is not your defeat.
- Envy is spawned when we have a limited and myopic view of ourselves and the world: embrace the vastness of time and space and envy will dissipate.
- Envy is also cultivated by a self-centered, self-reverential worldview: prefer others and envy will lose its grip.
- A perpetual attitude of gratitude will help guard against envy: be grateful for what you have, not what you don’t have.
Envy is the art of counting another’s blessings instead of your own and it has no benefit.
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2 Replies to “I don’t envy, and neither should you”
After reading your essay just now, I am thinking this is God’s way of speaking to me through your words. I am currently suffering from the painful loss from last night’s NCAA Men’s Basketball Championship game between Texas Tech and Virginia. I wouldn’t define my current state as “envious”, but perhaps I am. I do know that I am depressed and lethargic and am considering never again to get so involved in my alma mater or even my favorite professional sports team’s annual trek through their competitive season. Is this what God wants from us? To go through life living like a robot, void of any emotional investment in anything to protect us from the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune? Or even more daunting, to get to the point of being happy for the other team’s victory over my own? I’m not sure that I’ll ever attain such lofty heights, or that I would even want to.
William, thanks for taking the time to write. It sounds like you’re an avid sports fan. There’s nothing wrong with that; I just wouldn’t let it rob you of joy and contentment. I don’t think it’s envy your feeling. As I wrote, there’s no redeeming value in envy, but sadness and disappointment are normal emotions.