Each of us carries a word in our heart. For some, the word is “yes.” Yes, we believe we can succeed. Yes, we can learn. Yes, we can make a difference. Others carry a “no,” with all the negative baggage that accompanies it. —Martin Seligman
Which of these two words best describes you? Are you inclined toward “yes” or “no”? What is your default setting? What is your first response to life’s stimuli? Asked another way, are you an optimist or a pessimist?
Before you answer that last question, know that Dr. Seligman’s research indicates that 3/4 of Americans have a proclivity toward pessimism, so three out of four readers of this essay are in the “no” camp. Are you? Most of us have a hard time being honest with ourselves, so you might want to take a random survey among your friends and family.
Why would anyone choose to be a pessimist? (It is a choice one makes.)
- Long term, people won’t enjoy being around you.
- Your view of life will be sullied.
- Your mental and physical health will suffer.
Choose to be an optimist:
- People will be attracted to you.
- Life will be more enjoyable.
- You’ll enjoy better mental and physical health; optimists get sick less often and live longer.
Some people accuse optimists of being naive; after all, bad things do happen. Yes, we need to be realistic about the past and the present, but let’s be hopeful and optimistic about the future, and let’s not dwell on the negative.
I appreciate the balanced approach espoused by psychiatrist Leonard Zunin, who has identified four basic orientations:
- Those who see only the negative
- Those who see only the positive
- Those who see both and focus on the negative
- Those who see both and focus on the positive
It seems to me that number four is the preferred position.
When I think of an optimistic leader, former President Ronald Reagan comes to mind.
Immediately following an assassination attempt on him, while being wheeled into the operating room, he said to the physicians, “I hope you boys are Republicans.”
In 1982, at the depths of a depression, Richard Wirthlin, Reagan’s pollster for six years, came into the Oval Office with his semimonthly report. He told Reagan the bad news, “Thirty-two percent approval rating—the worst ever for any sitting president in the second year in office.” Reagan reportedly smiled and said, “Dick, Dick…stop worrying. I’ll just go out and try to get shot again.”
The following poem describes a young optimist. When this lad enters the workforce, I’ll hire him.
I passed a sand lot yesterday,
Some kids were playing ball
I strolled along the third base line
Within the fielder’s call.
“Say, what’s the score?” I asked.
He yelled to beat the stuffing,
“There’s no one out, the bases full,
They’re winning forty-two to nothing!”
“You’re getting beat, aren’t you my friend?”
And then in no time flat
He answered, “No, sir, not as yet!
Our side hasn’t been up to bat!”