I’ve learned a new phrase that comes in handy when I’m inordinately or unnecessarily worried about a mistake I made. I learned it from my friend Jason.
One day we were talking about a mistake that happened in one of our worship services (we started a song in two different keys). I was obsessing about it when Jason said, “Don, don’t worry about it; no one died.”
If an air-traffic controller, surgeon, or pilot makes a mistake, someone can die. But most of us work in jobs where mistakes are not fatal or permanent. Embarrassing perhaps, but not life-altering.
I’m not, of course, suggesting that we be flippant about making mistakes; we should always be careful and do our best. But sometimes we need to give ourselves and others grace. Sometimes it’s okay just to admit that a mistake was made, analyze why it happened so it won’t be repeated, and then drop the issue and carry on.
When you flub up, are you too hard on yourself? Or too easy? Are you too hard on other people when they make a mistake, or do you extend grace?
Inevitably, errors happen, so put them in proper perspective.
Two video series I highly recommend
Most nights, Mary and I end the day watching video shows together. It’s relaxing and enjoyable. We recently finished two shows on Netflix that we totally enjoyed: S.W.A.T (about the Los Angeles police team), and All the Light We Cannot See (the book by Anthony Door won the Pulitzer Prize and is now a four-part video series.) The story takes place in WW2. The protagonist is a 12 year old girl who is blind. Watch and enjoy.