It once was lost, but now it’s found – the joy of recovery

David Whyte, Anglo-Irish poet, tells a story about losing and finding his favorite pen, a Mont Blanc given to him by a friend. It is his favorite pen, not because it’s an expensive instrument, but because for decades it has been his constant companion and he uses it to write poetry and sign books.    

He was on a red-eye flight returning to Belfast. Moments before the plane landed, as he started getting his belongings together, he realized he must have dropped his pen. He was sitting in first class, so his seat was not the simple, straightforward kind; it was highly mechanized and hard to access. He tried in vain to find his pen.

When all passengers were off the plane the stewardess helped him look for it, but to no avail. She finally said, “Mr. Whyte, the only thing left to do so is ask an engineer to board the plane and take the seat apart.” He gently said, “Please do.”

Twenty minutes later, with the seat torn apart, there it was…his pen.

Whyte says that from that moment on, he valued the pen even more, for it had been lost but now was found. 

He uses that story to teach an important truth: Sometimes losing something and then regaining it enhances our appreciation of it. Whyte even suggests that we should periodically play a mind game with ourselves in which we “experience” the lost/found/increased-value scenario, but without having actually suffered the loss. 

Try this:

  • Close your eyes for a few minutes and imagine that two years ago you lost your sight. The world is now dark 24/7. Then imagine that through a medical procedure, or miracle, your sight has been restored. Now open your eyes and savor the sight of objects, people, colors, and shapes. The color red. A sunset. A loved one. You can drive a car again. You’ll have a greater appreciation for something you have taken for granted—sight. 
  • Imagine that you have lost someone you love: a child, friend, or spouse. Think deeply about what life would be like without him or her; feel the sadness. But then remind yourself that you haven’t lost them, it’s just a mind game. 
  • Imagine that you’re confined to solitary confinement. You’re in an 8×10 cell (slightly bigger than the average bathroom). You’re by yourself in the cell for 22 to 24 hours a day. When let out, it is into a small, solitary, outdoor area. But your confinement is only a daydream. With a new sense of gratitude, enjoy the rest of your day as the free person you really are.

Whenever I play this mind game, I become more grateful, less ill-tempered, more mindful and humbler, and more aware of God’s goodness and the joy of living life.  

10 Replies to “It once was lost, but now it’s found – the joy of recovery”

  1. Dear Don,
    You are so right and Jesus uses this idea in a number of parables.

    Although imaginary, all the scenarios you suggest are as if a definable event has happened. Right now, all around the world, people are “disappeared”. Their family don’t know if they are dead or alive. They can’t await the end of a prison sentence or send a letter; telephone; or arrange a visit. Pastor Raymond Koh’s abduction in February 2017 was captured by CCTV but no-one will tell his family where he is.
    How often do we thank God for a justice system (flawed as it might be)?
    Best wishes
    Angela Willson

    1. Thanks, Angela. You’re comments are always thought-provoking. When I’m tempted to complain, I think of those around the world who are experiencing intolerable conditions. How dare I complain.

  2. This serves as a close parallel to ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder,’ and you crave those things you cannot have. The two examples that highlight this for me and maybe many are: 1. We grow comfortable in our relationships, especially our marriage when together all the time, but those times I was deployed, I missed and yearned for my wife like never before; and 2. Over the years, I’ve made many trips to India and each time, I cannot wait to get back to the US and eat at Whataburger. Splendid insight as always Don!

    1. Thanks, Dane. That one phrase, “absence makes the heart grow fonder” sums up the entire post. Thanks for our friendship. Don

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