“Charm is deceptive” (Proverbs 31:30).
“Though their speech is charming, do not believe them” (Proverbs 26:25).
Some people are unintentionally charming. For instance, my grandson, Benjamin. He’s endearing, likable, funny, adorable, and appealing. He doesn’t try to be charming, he just is. This is the adjective form of the word.
But some people intentionally try to charm people, often to manipulate them. This is the verb form of the word. Beware of these people.
- We may be overly influenced by someone’s good looks; but just because someone is attractive, doesn’t mean she or he is competent, or possesses good character. Yet, studies indicate that attractive people are more likely to get hired for a job. Why is that so?
- We may be attracted to someone who talks a lot. But does verbosity imply anything other than…verbosity?
- We may be inordinately impressed by someone who has overcome a major obstacle. But is that single, valiant act reason to be entranced?
- Some people are overly impressed by professional athletes or movie stars. These individuals obviously excel at something, but does their narrow expertise make them an authority in other areas?
Leaders, when choosing team members don’t be misled by factors that don’t relate to job performance. Don’t be enamored by looks, talk, or bravado. Focus on qualities and experience that indicate competence and good character.
I started this post with Bible verses; I’ll end with one.
“Don’t judge by his appearance or height… The Lord doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart” (1 Samuel 16:7, NLT).