Social Intelligence post #4 – Be aware of your physical presence and how it impacts others

Plus, more pictures from the British Isles trip

I recently took 48 friends on a cruise of the British Isles. A good time was had by all.

The morning we were in Bruges, Belgium we disembarked the ship using  the gangway. Two thousand passengers had to follow one another down a narrow flight of steps to reach the pier.

One lady, as soon as her foot touched the dock, stopped, took a deep breath as if to absorb the moment, and looked around to enjoy the splendid scenery. She was totally unaware of the hundreds of people behind her who also wanted to get off the ship and enjoy the beauty. Her social ignorance almost caused an accident. When people are walking down steep steps they get into a good cadence and when the rhythm is suddenly disrupted it can cause the “dominoes to fall.”

An important  aspect  of social intelligence is to constantly monitor your current environment and be an asset not a liability to those around you.

      • When you’re walking in a crowded area, carefully navigate how your presence and movement will affect others. Don’t  suddenly change directions or stop (like the woman getting off the ship).
      • Before you push open a door think about what’s on the other side. Are you going to knock someone down?
      • When you’re standing in a group, are  you blocking anyone’s line of site?
      • When driving, are you aware of the cars around you and adjust appropriately?
      • When you enter a space already occupied by others, pause and consider how you can compliment and not disrupt what’s going on.

Management consultant Karl Albrecht defines social intelligence as: “The accumulated wisdom that comes from constantly observing and learning what works and what doesn’t in human situations.” SQ involves accurately assessing and properly relating to a social environment – to behave properly in any given situation. It is to possess strategic situational awareness and a complimentary set of skills for interacting successfully in relational settings. 

An important aspect of SQ is to constantly monitor the physical space you are in and graciously adjust to it.

Here are some pictures from the Travel with Friends September, 2023 trip to the British Isles. In November I’ll announce plans for the 2024 trip. One of the great joys in life is traveling with friends.


4 Replies to “Social Intelligence post #4 – Be aware of your physical presence and how it impacts others”

  1. I’m enjoying the common sense thread throughout the individual themes that you send along. In addition to being kind of considerate, which is what we are all called to do. You provide great and meaningful content.

    1. Ed, thanks for the kind and encouraging words. I hope my posts are beneficial. I love observing interesting things and thinking deeply about them. Take care. Don

  2. I really enjoy your messages Don! This one really hits home for me! I have a pet peeve that might be unusual but non-the-less really gets under my fingernails so to speak. After church, we always have a pot luck lunch. Sometimes our children are wanting to exit the sanctuary in a timely fashion and head to the fellowship hall along with the rest of us. It seems we have two or three that want to engage the speaker as he is greeting the congregation over philosophical issues. Well, that can take awhile!

    1. Sven, thanks for taking the time to respond. I share your struggle with those who seem to be in slow-motion when a quicker pace is needed. Where do you live? Kind regards, Don.

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