“Charm is deceptive” (Proverbs 31:30).
“Though their speech is charming, do not believe them” (Proverbs 26:25).
Some people are unintentionally charming. For instance, my grandson, Benjamin. He’s endearing, likable, funny, adorable, and appealing. He doesn’t try to be charming, he just is. This is the adjective form of the word.
But some people intentionally try to charm people, often to manipulate them. This is the verb form of the word. Beware of these people.
For instance:
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- We may be overly influenced by someone’s good looks; but just because someone is attractive, doesn’t mean she or he is competent, or possesses good character. Yet, studies indicate that attractive people are more likely to get hired for a job. Why is that so?
- We may be attracted to someone who talks a lot. But does verbosity imply anything other than…verbosity?
- We may be inordinately impressed by someone who has overcome a major obstacle. But is that single, valiant act reason to be entranced?
- Some people are overly impressed by professional athletes or movie stars. These individuals obviously excel at something, but does their narrow expertise make them an authority in other areas?
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Leaders, when choosing team members don’t be misled by factors that don’t relate to job performance. Don’t be enamored by looks, talk, or bravado. Focus on qualities and experience that indicate competence and good character.
I started this post with Bible verses; I’ll end with one.
“Don’t judge by his appearance or height… The Lord doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart” (1 Samuel 16:7, NLT).
Thank you for your observation, Don. I’m neither extrovert or introvert, just between, I think. Introverts have always been impressive to me, because I have to wait to hear their opinions or their thoughts . Extroverts grab my attention immediately. In the end, whatever either one of them says, I’m most impressed by the truth of right and wrong, and the justice ring of their speech. Just character, like you note in today. Means a lot to me when I hear that.
Kay, I like all your thoughts. Thanks for reading and responding to my posts. Don
Unfortunately those who are charming and “worm” their way into organisations often appear to be above reproach. No-one would believe they could possibly be the “devil in disguise”. This why understanding how we give power to individuals and subjugate others is important. It is now part of church safeguarding training within the Church of England.
Sadly, you will have read about the Mandelson scandal in the UK. He is a very charming man but his motives are highly suspect.
It’s virtually impossible to truly know a person simply by visuals.
Thanks for responding to my post. Don
Great message, Don!
I know it takes discipline to look past appearances, so thank you for the reminder.
Thanks, Brian. I hope you are well. Don
Very thought- provoking (and so true)! Thanks! Dick D
Thanks, Dick. I hope you and Judy are doing well.
Thank you Don for sharing that !! So true !! You all have a blessed afternoon. Rachel Baumgarner
PS please put me on your email list, my sister Kathy sent me this . Thank you 😊
Rachel, thanks for responding to my post. I’ll subscribe you; you’ll receive one every Tuesday.
Take care, Don