We all have mental tapes that play over and over in our minds. Memories of past events. Monologues that we continually speak to imaginary people. Some of the tapes are positive and give us peace and pleasure. Others replay challenging and troubling thoughts.
I’m trying to discipline myself to never have the same thought twice unless it gives me pleasure or instruction.
For instance, I allow myself unlimited playback of these fond memories:
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- Traveling — a picnic with Sarah and Mary near the top of the Swiss Alps. In Santorini, drinking Assyrtiko wine looking into the water-filled caldera. Sleeping on an overnight train from Budapest to Vienna.
- Time with my grandchildren — burying treasure chests for Benjamin to find; swimming with Ben on the Queen Mary 2; rocking Claire to sleep.
- Moments of deep worship — musical moments with the Stonebriar choir and orchestra; quiet moments alone in the woods.
- Moments with Mary — celebrating New Year’s Eve in Times Square; having our first child; building our first house.
I try to stop the mental tapes that are troubling or upsetting.
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- Interpersonal conflicts with family members or acquaintances
- Painful experiences from the past
- Anxiety about the future
- Conversations that were contentious
Sometimes, when a negative tape is playing, I literally tap my finger on a hard object, as if I’m punching stop on a playback machine. This physical move helps me stop the tape and redirect my mind.
The Apostle Paul put it this way; “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things” (Philippians 4:8 NIV).